There are all sorts of cliches about men picking up women in book stores but, believe it or not, it is something that can actually happen. Of course, meeting a woman and getting from that initial "hello" to the exchange of phone numbers and plans for a meal can be a little bit tricky. You don't want to rush things, but you don't want to let her get away, either. Here are a few tips on how to meet women in book stores.
#1. Visit a large bookstore. A mall bookstore or a small store might be right on your way somewhere, but it generally isn't a good place to meet women. Small bookstores are cramped, usually over flowing with product and the sales people are tripping over you every couple of minutes as they offer customer service to the other customers. If the store is busy, you can forget about even being able to approach the woman who caught your eye. Too many people will manage to get in your way and by the time you get to where she was standing, she will have moved on to a new location. Instead opt for browsing at one of the larger bookstores like Barnes and Nobles or Borders. These stores are famous for their wide aisles, their comfortable chairs and their coffee shops.
#2. Don't try to impress women who are reading books from sections that you normally wouldn't set foot in. If you are into anime and she is reading the newest tome from Dr. Phil, you might not have much luck in finding a good conversation starter. If you look in the sections that you normally shop in, you have a built in way to start a conversation. You can either mention what you've thought about the book she's looking at or ask her if she might be able to recommend something since you can see that she reads the same books you do. Obviously you could do this in another section as well, but it is risky-especially if she asks you what other books in that section you have read.
#3. Generally speaking, you are better off approaching someone who is browsing the aisles than someone who is immersed thoroughly in a book. If she's seated comfortably and appears in deep thought, leave her alone. Think about it - do you want to make that interruption the first impression she has of you? The beauty of approaching the browsing woman is that you have topics already at your finger tips, from second tip.
#4. Move the conversation into an area better suited for conversation-the coffee shop. This is why you are in the bigger bookstore-it's coffee shop. If you have managed to strike up a conversation with an interesting woman, it is easy to move it from the book section over to the coffee shop. All you have to do is either turn like you are about to start walking to see if she will walk with you or, if you are feeling bold, simply say "I definitely want to keep talking about this, but I don't want to disturb the other shoppers. Can I buy you a cup of coffee over in the cafe?" And with that simple question you have moved from "picking up" the woman to your first date.
#5. At some point you are going to have to decide if you would like to talk to this woman again and if she doesn't ask you for your phone number or initiate plans for another get together, it is going to be up to you to get things started. It might be up to you anyway as some women still wait for the man to make the first move. If you have no coffee in your cup and are still talking, I'd ask for her number so that you can make plans to see her again.
While it's just five simple tips, they'll go a long way in helping you meet women in a book store. Just remember to keep it simple. Be yourself - if you put on an act it can backfire very easily.
#1. Visit a large bookstore. A mall bookstore or a small store might be right on your way somewhere, but it generally isn't a good place to meet women. Small bookstores are cramped, usually over flowing with product and the sales people are tripping over you every couple of minutes as they offer customer service to the other customers. If the store is busy, you can forget about even being able to approach the woman who caught your eye. Too many people will manage to get in your way and by the time you get to where she was standing, she will have moved on to a new location. Instead opt for browsing at one of the larger bookstores like Barnes and Nobles or Borders. These stores are famous for their wide aisles, their comfortable chairs and their coffee shops.
#2. Don't try to impress women who are reading books from sections that you normally wouldn't set foot in. If you are into anime and she is reading the newest tome from Dr. Phil, you might not have much luck in finding a good conversation starter. If you look in the sections that you normally shop in, you have a built in way to start a conversation. You can either mention what you've thought about the book she's looking at or ask her if she might be able to recommend something since you can see that she reads the same books you do. Obviously you could do this in another section as well, but it is risky-especially if she asks you what other books in that section you have read.
#3. Generally speaking, you are better off approaching someone who is browsing the aisles than someone who is immersed thoroughly in a book. If she's seated comfortably and appears in deep thought, leave her alone. Think about it - do you want to make that interruption the first impression she has of you? The beauty of approaching the browsing woman is that you have topics already at your finger tips, from second tip.
#4. Move the conversation into an area better suited for conversation-the coffee shop. This is why you are in the bigger bookstore-it's coffee shop. If you have managed to strike up a conversation with an interesting woman, it is easy to move it from the book section over to the coffee shop. All you have to do is either turn like you are about to start walking to see if she will walk with you or, if you are feeling bold, simply say "I definitely want to keep talking about this, but I don't want to disturb the other shoppers. Can I buy you a cup of coffee over in the cafe?" And with that simple question you have moved from "picking up" the woman to your first date.
#5. At some point you are going to have to decide if you would like to talk to this woman again and if she doesn't ask you for your phone number or initiate plans for another get together, it is going to be up to you to get things started. It might be up to you anyway as some women still wait for the man to make the first move. If you have no coffee in your cup and are still talking, I'd ask for her number so that you can make plans to see her again.
While it's just five simple tips, they'll go a long way in helping you meet women in a book store. Just remember to keep it simple. Be yourself - if you put on an act it can backfire very easily.
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