Conflict can kill a marriage over time. So it pays off to learn how to reduce conflict and to learn to argue in a healthy way. Shows like Dr Phil and lots of books and courses can teach you to fight fair and to minimize the damage conflict causes to your marriage.
You really can improve the quality of your marriage by learning how to deal with conflict in positive rather than negative ways. It is worth paying attention to. However, is there a way to stop conflict before it ever begins? Is there a way to stop fighting at the source?
There is a way to minimize fighting and stop it at its source. This strategy is a secret that no one talks about even though it is staring us right in the face. The way to stop marital conflict before it starts is to PLAY more with your spouse!
Play is the fun secret that can kill conflict before it begins. Conflict and play go hand in hand. The more play in your marriage, the less conflict. Kinda obvious, right? In the beginning you played a lot with your mate. You went to movies, had lots of sex, went dancing. You engaged in all kinds of fun activities. There was lots more play than fighting in the beginning.
But over time, we get married, have kids, have responsibilities and burdens. The play can almost disappear from our relationship. And as the play disappears, the fighting grows and increases in almost direct proportion.
You can experiment with this yourself for the next month. Add play back in with your spouse. Go on at least one date night a week where you enjoy each other and leave the burdens of adulthood aside for a few hours. Begin to have more playful, spontaneous sex occasionally. Carve out a few times a week where you play together.
More play equals less conflict in your marriage. This is an oversimplification, but in general it works much of the time (depending on the nature of your conflicts). Add some more play into your marriage and see for yourself how much conflict is diminished.
You really can improve the quality of your marriage by learning how to deal with conflict in positive rather than negative ways. It is worth paying attention to. However, is there a way to stop conflict before it ever begins? Is there a way to stop fighting at the source?
There is a way to minimize fighting and stop it at its source. This strategy is a secret that no one talks about even though it is staring us right in the face. The way to stop marital conflict before it starts is to PLAY more with your spouse!
Play is the fun secret that can kill conflict before it begins. Conflict and play go hand in hand. The more play in your marriage, the less conflict. Kinda obvious, right? In the beginning you played a lot with your mate. You went to movies, had lots of sex, went dancing. You engaged in all kinds of fun activities. There was lots more play than fighting in the beginning.
But over time, we get married, have kids, have responsibilities and burdens. The play can almost disappear from our relationship. And as the play disappears, the fighting grows and increases in almost direct proportion.
You can experiment with this yourself for the next month. Add play back in with your spouse. Go on at least one date night a week where you enjoy each other and leave the burdens of adulthood aside for a few hours. Begin to have more playful, spontaneous sex occasionally. Carve out a few times a week where you play together.
More play equals less conflict in your marriage. This is an oversimplification, but in general it works much of the time (depending on the nature of your conflicts). Add some more play into your marriage and see for yourself how much conflict is diminished.
About the Author:
You can discover more marriage advice in a book about Stop Marital Conflict And Have More Intimacy Today. Johnnie S Laney teaches courses on relationship intelligence. You can get a free course on 7 Vital Relationship Insights here at Marriage Advice Secrets.
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