The following are beginner tips on checking out dating online and offline:
- In any correspondence (email or paper or discussion boards or chat rooms), obey the following rules: Be polite and conventional to begin with. Do not assume intimacy with an absolute stranger. Do not employ spicy words or swear-words or talk about violent or cruel acts. Women detest this sort of thing, and it makes them frightened; "uh-oh, another net crazy!" Don't self-praise. Play Up your best qualities and your status in the flow of the correspondence, but don't brag. Listen to what she has to say, and talk about HER and her interests. Don't badger her. If she doesn't want to talk, or doesn't reply, don't nag her. Silence is an response in itself. She may be occupied, she may have received mail from other guys first, or she just ain't interested. Again, you don't want to be seen as a pest-weirdo-stalker. For your own sake, you should try to get a picture of her as soon as is polite. A photograph speaks a thousand words, and you may spare yourself a lot of effort. Even then, photos can be old or falsified or photoshopped, so ask for snaps from her recent vacation, or the like.
- You have to give the impression that you are positive, moneyed, powerful, (and tender in private with her). If you don't have these qualities, fake them. Women need to see potential, and the origin of the word potential is the Latin 'potentia', meaning power.
- Examine your responses to women objectively. You'll find that a favourite type emerges: slender or plump, dark or blonde, extroverted or introverted. There's a pop or movie star that you can't help but gape at whilst she's on the screen. There's a type that causes your head to pivot when you're walking down the street. That's the type you should go for; the one that stimulates a reflexive, positive response. You'll find it easier to speak to this type of girl. If you have found your true love she'll feel the same way about you. You have genes that'll help her make a better baby; she does the same for you.
- A hot motorcar is a big plus in your search for l'amour. Second-hand sports or classic motorcars can cost just as much as a new 'sensible' motorcar, and are a deal more fun. Screw the fuel consumption and the insurance! Women say they dislike big muscles in men and their big automobiles. What they really mean is they dislike men who are obsessed with or who are nothing more than their big muscles or their big autos. If you have both, and can project sensitiveness and self-confidence, you're three-quarters' way home. Failing this, get a motorcar with character like a Morris Minor or a VW Beetle. What you're targeting is the variety of car a lady would like to be be caught in. If it's fashion models you want, you need a swank motorcar. If it's arty types, get a 'character' car. It depends on your social milieu, and your own character i.e. a student in a liberal arts faculty would look odd with a BMW, but upon reflection I think he'd be very popular! Even the fact that you have any variety of car at all will be a bonus; ladies like to be driven, and it opens up many more romantic possibilities. Just keep in mind it's only a prop in your 'act'.
- Women want you to like and admire and treasure them. Casanova was victorious with women not because he was good-looking or spirited (he was rather plain in looks), but because he truly appreciated them. The archetypal latin lover is very thoughtful and complimentary to his quarry, and treats her like a princess, a donna. He says she is the most gorgeous woman in the world, and means it. Oh, she laughs at this, but see how she shines too. Most men treat women like an alien specie, or objects to be acquired, as s-x toys, or as testy incoherent nuisances. A man that accepts a woman just as she is, with honest admiration, can have any woman he wants.
- How will you know if a girl is interested in you? She gives you a second glance. Try smiling. If she smiles back, you're in! It's a myth that men gain women by chasing them. Women evaluate men, then give the big gits 'the come on'. You just need the self-confidence to walk over and say hello. If you can think of a witty comment, make one. If you can't, just smile. Say hello. Ask an appropriate question. Then listen to what she has to say. Which, if she likes you, will be a lot.
- Social skills: A man should ideally be gregarious, with an inner circle of amusing acquaintances. He ought be able to hold knowledgeable discussions on an extensive variety of subjects. A man should be observant. He should detect when a woman has altered her appearance. He should detect when she is distressed. When required he should not stay silent, but offer compliments or sympathy. He should, however, also be aware that no man ever won a fair lady by being a doormat. You're not required to tolerate unreasonable behaviour. Don't take women's 'crises' too seriously. They certainly don't. One day all is lost, the next day all is well. A strong man holds it all in. A strong woman (or a nutcase!) explodes. Regularly.
- Find somebody who lives or works near you. A twenty-mile radius is about the limit; five-to-ten would be better. If you can't meet each other easily you don't have a relationship; it's harder to go to a public house or a cafe or just go for a walk together spontaneously. Long-distance relationships only work for married people, for a short time; even then, soldiers still get divorced or the missus commits adultery or he does.
I hope these few simple suggestions will help you in finding a nice girl via online and offline dating.
- In any correspondence (email or paper or discussion boards or chat rooms), obey the following rules: Be polite and conventional to begin with. Do not assume intimacy with an absolute stranger. Do not employ spicy words or swear-words or talk about violent or cruel acts. Women detest this sort of thing, and it makes them frightened; "uh-oh, another net crazy!" Don't self-praise. Play Up your best qualities and your status in the flow of the correspondence, but don't brag. Listen to what she has to say, and talk about HER and her interests. Don't badger her. If she doesn't want to talk, or doesn't reply, don't nag her. Silence is an response in itself. She may be occupied, she may have received mail from other guys first, or she just ain't interested. Again, you don't want to be seen as a pest-weirdo-stalker. For your own sake, you should try to get a picture of her as soon as is polite. A photograph speaks a thousand words, and you may spare yourself a lot of effort. Even then, photos can be old or falsified or photoshopped, so ask for snaps from her recent vacation, or the like.
- You have to give the impression that you are positive, moneyed, powerful, (and tender in private with her). If you don't have these qualities, fake them. Women need to see potential, and the origin of the word potential is the Latin 'potentia', meaning power.
- Examine your responses to women objectively. You'll find that a favourite type emerges: slender or plump, dark or blonde, extroverted or introverted. There's a pop or movie star that you can't help but gape at whilst she's on the screen. There's a type that causes your head to pivot when you're walking down the street. That's the type you should go for; the one that stimulates a reflexive, positive response. You'll find it easier to speak to this type of girl. If you have found your true love she'll feel the same way about you. You have genes that'll help her make a better baby; she does the same for you.
- A hot motorcar is a big plus in your search for l'amour. Second-hand sports or classic motorcars can cost just as much as a new 'sensible' motorcar, and are a deal more fun. Screw the fuel consumption and the insurance! Women say they dislike big muscles in men and their big automobiles. What they really mean is they dislike men who are obsessed with or who are nothing more than their big muscles or their big autos. If you have both, and can project sensitiveness and self-confidence, you're three-quarters' way home. Failing this, get a motorcar with character like a Morris Minor or a VW Beetle. What you're targeting is the variety of car a lady would like to be be caught in. If it's fashion models you want, you need a swank motorcar. If it's arty types, get a 'character' car. It depends on your social milieu, and your own character i.e. a student in a liberal arts faculty would look odd with a BMW, but upon reflection I think he'd be very popular! Even the fact that you have any variety of car at all will be a bonus; ladies like to be driven, and it opens up many more romantic possibilities. Just keep in mind it's only a prop in your 'act'.
- Women want you to like and admire and treasure them. Casanova was victorious with women not because he was good-looking or spirited (he was rather plain in looks), but because he truly appreciated them. The archetypal latin lover is very thoughtful and complimentary to his quarry, and treats her like a princess, a donna. He says she is the most gorgeous woman in the world, and means it. Oh, she laughs at this, but see how she shines too. Most men treat women like an alien specie, or objects to be acquired, as s-x toys, or as testy incoherent nuisances. A man that accepts a woman just as she is, with honest admiration, can have any woman he wants.
- How will you know if a girl is interested in you? She gives you a second glance. Try smiling. If she smiles back, you're in! It's a myth that men gain women by chasing them. Women evaluate men, then give the big gits 'the come on'. You just need the self-confidence to walk over and say hello. If you can think of a witty comment, make one. If you can't, just smile. Say hello. Ask an appropriate question. Then listen to what she has to say. Which, if she likes you, will be a lot.
- Social skills: A man should ideally be gregarious, with an inner circle of amusing acquaintances. He ought be able to hold knowledgeable discussions on an extensive variety of subjects. A man should be observant. He should detect when a woman has altered her appearance. He should detect when she is distressed. When required he should not stay silent, but offer compliments or sympathy. He should, however, also be aware that no man ever won a fair lady by being a doormat. You're not required to tolerate unreasonable behaviour. Don't take women's 'crises' too seriously. They certainly don't. One day all is lost, the next day all is well. A strong man holds it all in. A strong woman (or a nutcase!) explodes. Regularly.
- Find somebody who lives or works near you. A twenty-mile radius is about the limit; five-to-ten would be better. If you can't meet each other easily you don't have a relationship; it's harder to go to a public house or a cafe or just go for a walk together spontaneously. Long-distance relationships only work for married people, for a short time; even then, soldiers still get divorced or the missus commits adultery or he does.
I hope these few simple suggestions will help you in finding a nice girl via online and offline dating.
About the Author:
Nick Svengali is an author for free online dating service and personal development websites in London, Great Britain.
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